One of the comments on my What's the Best? post resonated as a comment that so many women might have made. 

RT said "Reading your blog made me smile.   It really struck deep.   I'm the kind of person to think that their "best case scenario" is the dream that will never come true and their "worst case scenario" is reality.  I'm working on believing that I can have a "best case scenario" reality."

So many of us let ourselves be paralyzed by that fear that the Best Case is just a pipe dream.  We focus so much on what we don't have and it locks us into that place of lack.  We dream of the future and it never comes.  And one of the reasons is that we don't ACT.  We say, "Oprah would never read my book", so we don't even write.  In my post, the whole scenario hinged on Gayle buying my book for Oprah.  But if I never write it, she can't possibly buy it.  Maybe she still won't, but there is ZERO chance of her extracting it from my head. 

_"Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Maybe the mere act of writing that book will reveal another dream or path to me.  Maybe I'll discover that I really don't want to publish my book, but that my goal is to share my words in another way- maybe greeting cards or T-shirts.   It may be that I'll never be on Oprah, but I'll have that same feeling of fulfillment and joy that my vision gave me.  It's just a way to feel that feeling and the details are irrelevant.  Without my action and dedication, my best case scenario will stay a mere hope in the distance instead of a bright light on my path, leading me on.  

Don't forget that right now is a gift- that's why it's a present.  (Yes, it's cliche, but it's also true.)   Don't wait to to start living once your someday comes, or you're wasting all the gifts that today provides.  Start to take the steps and do the work that gets you there.  Gayle can't buy my book if it doesn't exist.  You can't shine if you're hiding in a cave waiting for tomorrow.  Your dreams are waiting for you to head in their direction.  

Get up on your path and allow the Universe to shower you with all the Blessings you have in store.    

If you need support in seeing your path and setting your actions, please check out my Work page for more info on how we could work together.  Or email me for a free Fairy Godmother Session to dig into your dreams and see what magics we can find. 

I adore books.  I read constantly, at least a book every 2 weeks.  I love learning and exploring worlds I've never seen and all the wonder that a new book can hold.  So, when Amy Palko announced her Summer Read-along of The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger, I jumped right in.  This is my first time reading it, and I have gotten to page 284.  Even though I've seen the movie and know the ending, the book is so beautiful that I find it harder and harder to put it down. 

There are many messages in this book about love and time and memory, but the passage that I keep coming to over and over again is this:

"I am having a hard time, in my tiny bedroom studio, in the beginning of my married life.  The space that I can call mine, that isn’t full of Henry, is so small that my ideas have become small.  I am like a caterpillar in a cocoon of paper; all around me are sketches for sculptures, small drawings that seem like moths fluttering against the windows, beating their wings to escape from this tiny space.  I make maquettes, tiny sculptures that are rehearsals for huge sculptures.  Every day the ideas come more reluctantly, as though they know I will starve them and stunt their growth.  At night I dream about color, about submerging my arms into vats of paper fibre.  I dream about miniature gardens I can’t set foot in because I am a giantess.  .... The magic I can make is small magic now, deferred magic.  Every day I work, but nothing ever materializes."

I feel a great connection to Clare here, because I too have seen my dreams and creations shrink to fit the space I had.  For the last two years, my husband and I have been in a very small space.  We have a bedroom, a bathroom, and a kitchen.  We have no privacy because my parent's pool is in our kitchen and no separate space to get away from each other.  I am a creative, artsy craftsy person and I love to make things with my hands.  While we've been here, I haven't been creating or drawing or painting or feeding my soul in all those wonderful ways.  I have felt myself receding away piece by piece.  My inner muse was in hibernation and I was just going through the motions of life, without much real connection or meaning for myself.   

In the beginning of this year, my sleeping giant woke up and I have spent this year growing and developing myself again.  I have been taking art courses online and learning to create mandalas and writing again.  I have found life coaching and a way to fulfill my purpose by helping other women to rekindle their own passions as I've rediscovered mine.  I am leaping out into the great unknown to make my dreams come true.  I am dancing again and dreaming big dreams and creating my best life.  I feel like Alice in Wonderland when she eats the cake and keeps getting bigger and bigger.  I look at the full moon and feel my own expansion growing to match.  We are looking for a house of our own so that I can continue to grow and expand and flourish in a sacred room of my own.  But even without that room, I refuse to let my magic be diminished.  And I encourage you to make sure your magic isn't squashed either.  The world deserves our biggest and brightest dreams.